Deep Breath And…

 

 

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Whew! It feels as though I haven’t taken a breath in a month…I literally exhaled today as I thought of the hurricane that has been the last thirty days for this tired, old girl (ok, so everyone over twenty-eight wouldn’t agree with the old part, but everyone under that, including my own children, certainly think that thirty-eight is as ancient as the pyramids).

At the end of March, we celebrated the thirteenth year of life with my beautiful daughter, Devaney (teenager? yikes!), and a dance/slumber party. A week later, we celebrated the eleventh birthday of my second daughter, Destiny (she thinks she’s a teenager too). We threw her birthday/slumber party the following week due to spring break. Ah yes, spring break; in the midst of everything else, I lost the regularity of the older kids going to school.

I also had the unique, humbling, and emotional honor of sitting with the very important women in my life, on my beautiful grandmother’s final bed, caressing her gently as I watched her take her last breath. This was a short two days after Destiny’s birthday. To celebrate the life of, and to mourn death of, such loved ones in the same week…an indescribable conflict.

The day following Grandma’s passing, I celebrated the resurrection of Jesus. Even as I quietly snuck back and forth between the beds of my sleeping children, gently laying out baskets full of chocolate and jelly beans, I thought also about the Resurrection Celebration taking place that day in Heaven…what a way to welcome her to Heaven…what a glorious time for her to be returned to her parents, husband, son and daughter…I love you Grandma. Grandma’s memorial took place the following weekend. It was a good time to see and catch up with “long-lost” family. Unfortunately, our Matriarch was in attendance only in spirit.

This past Saturday, I tried to shift my focus and concentrate on life. Fifteen years of life to be exact. It’s been fifteen years since God blessed us with our first-born, a son; our handsome and amazing son. We had a Wii party (a bunch of boys stayed over, but I’m not sure they’d call it a slumber party since no one slumbered) resulting in about four teenage boys thinking they all broke their wrists (take it easy the first time, it’s a workout ya’ll).

So, deep breath in and…e x h a l e.

Thank You Lord, for each of these experiences, the laughter and the tears, the pain and the relief, the sunshine that kisses my face and the rain that, although is sometimes hard to deal with, always cleans the air and brings more life to the world around me.

I love being alive…

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Grandmother…

7-4-06 033Womb that came the womb that I came.

Sweet lessons taught that I have attained

From my mama…your baby.

I see her in reflections of me

And in her you are what I see,

Most beautiful of women.

 

You flow through me with every beat

Bringing forth life – before me, before she.

She that you passed your secrets onto,

Therefore I learned those secrets from you,

The loveliest of queens.

 

Antique images framed,

Forever stopping time

Mother of she, Grand to me, Greater still to mine.

intricately woven and forever connected

By our common thread of life…

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I Love You Grandma

I just found out tonight that my grandma will enter hospice tomorrow…the remainder of my evening saw it’s share of tears. I know she is tired, I know she is ready to go, therefore, I also know that these tears that stain my cheek are for me…not for her. How selfish am I? That I would want her to stay for just a bit longer? In recent years, I just haven’t been the granddaughter I should have been to her…I guess I just assumed that I would have plenty of time to make it up to her. I mean, there’s always next week or the week after that, right? Wrong.

I love you Grandma…

I remember as a very young child, the church and home she (they) kept in Cottage Grove. There was this cabinet that ran between the living room and dining room behind it. I think it was meant to store firewood or something, not really sure. What I am sure about, though, is the incredible set of Barbie dolls she kept there for us to play with. Oh, they had the most beautiful clothes…and in my mind I would slip away and pretend those lovely gowns were mine. I always felt so pretty when I played with those dolls.

I love you Grandma…

When I was eleven, she and my grandfather took me on the trip of my life. He was an evangelist then. We spent the summer traveling (in a motor-home) across the entire nation visiting church camps. I had so much fun, met so many new people. It was during that trip that she bought me my first bra. She seemed happy about doing this for me…sort of proud that we would always have this memory…just for the two of us.

I love you Grandma…

When my own parents experienced such financial difficulties, we had to move across the country to live with my grandparents. We used to make fun of her because she did such “crazy” things. We were only allowed two minute showers which I thought was incredibly mean! (of course, it would still be years before I knew what a water bill was – let alone had to pay one). She was keenly aware of the beginning time of our showers and would come-a-stomping down the stairs, reach into the shower and turn off that water if we exceeded those two minutes! It’s funny now, but man did it suck if you still had soap on ya!

I love you Grandma.

Sunday roast…Charlie perfume (thanks for reminding me of that Deb)…making us laugh as she cackled like a witch when she’d take out her dentures (scary, but very funny)…the way she loved her many (but one at a time) dogs…polyester pants (didn’t know they came in so many colors) and floral print shirts…blue water in the toilets…the very best decorations every, single holiday…teaching me to finger crochet…the smell of a motor home…catching fireflies on a warm, southern night…chasing boys down the street with a broom when they came asking for her granddaughters…eating like a bird (none of us had the heart to tell her that birds can eat twice their weight)…”never taken a sip of that poison in my life!”…tiny ankles and beautiful hands…loving me…loving us all…

I love you Grandma…

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Goodnight Twelve Year Old…

“Goodnight twelve year old.”

I just spoke these words to you, my precious Mamacita, as I kissed you goodnight…the last time I will do so before you become a teenager. Where has the time gone? I haven’t been super emotional, up til now, thinking about the finality of the milestone that is tomorrow. No more baby girl braids…no more Disney themed, frilly, little swimsuits…no more tricking you on the “3 count” before I yank out a baby tooth…no more car seats, booster seats, and yes, now you ride in the front…no more glittery body spray that makes you smell like a fruity jelly bean…no more fake high heels – now you wear mine (even though they make you taller than me)…no more explaining to you the truth about the tooth fairy, Santa Claus, or the Easter bunny – and yes, I know you still get an basket despite this knowledge…and no more scooping up your little girl frame and holding you on my hip.

“Mom (the word Mommy is a thing of the past), can I curl up on your lap like when I was a baby?” you asked me tonight. Your clumsy efforts to fold your five foot, seven inch frame into the space that used to hold you so easily, well, that was certainly bittersweet for me. I closed my eyes as I wrapped my arms around you tonight and, just for that moment, your straightened bangs were replaced with twists and afro-puffs, I could see past your perfectly shaped smile – back to a mouthful of gappy, awkward ivories that just weren’t sure where to go, and you, my baby, fit perfectly into the arms of your mother.

I love you with all that I have. I am so proud of you, and I feel extremely honored to be your mother. It seems now that I am simply along for the ride…a journey that goes faster and faster the further into it we get. I am sad about the part that is now behind us…I can’t lie about that. More than that though, I am incredibly anxious and excited to discover what’s still to come and I know that you will continue make your father and I proud…just by being you.

Love,

Mommy

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The Big 13!

s42239ca119483_18This post is for all the parents of all the friends that Devaney has been blessed with!  We wanted to send out actual invitations, but with several kids attending from a few different schools, we thought we’d be better served relying on the world wide web 🙂

Miss Devaney Antonia Sparrow will officially be a teenager on Tuesday, March 23rd, however, we will be partying like it’s 1999 (ok, that’ll be something just you parents understand!) on Friday, March 26th, 6 – 10pm @ our home (please call to RSVP and get directions).

Of course this will be completely supervised by parents. We will be serving pizza, cake, and all the other regular birthday junk one would expect to find at a thirteenth b-day. So, to recap:

Please help us celebrate the thirteenth birthday of my beautiful daughter, Devaney:

Our Home (please call to RSVP and get directions)
Friday, 3/26 @ 6:00pm-10:00pm

**There will be transportation for some, leaving Covington Middle School @ 2:50pm. Parents of those kids need to #1- pick their kids up from our house, and #2- write a note authorizing their kids to ride in our vehicle. I’m sorry, no note = no ride, I’m sure you parents understand 🙂

RSVP  @ 360-910-9135

Thanks, Donna

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