Halleluyah!

D’Lo in the kitchen, messin’ around with the cabinet doors (even though I ask him not to…over and over again)…

SLAM!

“Oh man! I swammed my finguh in the cabnet!…Haw-way-you-yah!!”

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In Walks Reality

OK, I really wanted to feed you all some really cutsie piece of Sparrow pie today…

but I can’t…

Unfortunately, today I have the disappointing opportunity to share with you a little bit of reality instead:

We have Antone back with us, trying to help him find his grown-up legs and encouraging him to stand on them. I took him out today to gather job applications (one of the many things on our grown up list of “to-do’s”). Now, he’s a nice lookin’ kid…and he’s very polite. It’s all about “Yes, Ma’am” and “Yes, Sir” with him, especially in this moment of asking for job apps…Oh yeah, and he’s also black.

Our third stop was Baskin Robbins (the first two being unsuccessful). He went in ahead of me, as I was gathering my phone, wallet, etc. As I approached the door, I glanced up to see him smile politely and say thank you to the “gentleman” behind the counter (who doesn’t know that Antone is with me). Turns out, yet again, that Antone will need to fill out an application online. “Baskin Robbins dot com?” Antone asks, still smiling…”Yes” responds the employee.

I decided to sit in the air conditioned ice cream shop and eat me a scoop of Pralines and Cream (my favorite of the 31 flavors) while I waited for Antone to hit a few of the other shops in the strip mall. I was all alone in the shop, enjoying my treat, when in walks this little blond (white) woman…

“How do I go about applying for a job here?” she asks

OK…here it comes (and I KNOW he’s about to tell her the same thing he just told Antone…puh-leez be about to tell her the same thing you just told my black brother)…

“You need to bring your resume in and give it to our manager…Her name is Kara.”

Uuuummmmmm…??????? OK, let me finish up this last bite, and as I let it melt over my tongue, please let me remember something I may have missed that will make this situation OK…nope, nada, nothing.

As my urge was to strike out at him with all the force of the storm now brewing inside of me, it took every rational cell in my body to decide how to handle this…I stood up, walked back up to the register, and as he approached me I asked him to repeat to me the name of the manager one should turn their resume into, as well as the spelling of the name. “And what was your name again?” I asked. “Andy” he replied, a curious look upon his racist face. “Thank you” I uttered with all the smile I could muster, and I walked out.

To make things a little more abrasive for you, I just hopped directly onto my computer when I got home…as I typed in the web address that Antone was directed to, my fingers began to shake with the same intensity as the current quake in my heart as I read this…

So, don’t miss out on all the fun. Locate your nearest Baskin Robbins location, stop by and fill out an application.

Here’s at least one location you may want to avoid unless, of course, you, hmmmmmm, how shall I put this…approve of this type of (cough, cough, crap) behavior.

  800 NE Tenney Rd
#109
Vancouver , WA 98685
 
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Slow Down, Young Woman

So, I have a big problem…It’s seems inescapable…It feels bittersweet.

My daughter, Devaney…well, she’s quickly becoming a young woman. Hmmmm, I’m pretty sure I’m not ready for this part of the journey. She has (sorry for embarassing you, Mamacita) well, she has boobs. She has a booty, and hips to go along with it. She is taller by the minute…and more beautiful by the second.

I told her today that I wasn’t really sure that my heart could take it. She asked me if I would prefer she stay, forever, in the eighth grade…

“No” I replied…”I would prefer you stay, forever, in say, the second grade.”

She flashed me her lovely smile…I wanted to cry.

I want to change focus real quick now. I want to give props to my lovely mama, for she has survived this same thing…with six daughters. I love you Mommy. I’m so proud of you for making it through…I’m so worried for me to take the same trip…I hope I am able to handle it with the same grace and beauty.

Lord, with Your great wisdom and mercy, please guide Devaney and I both along this beautifully painful path…hold my hand, even as I am holding hers.

Thank You.

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I Am

I am calm and chaotic.

I am silence in the noise.

I am tears in the laughter and…

I am laughter in the tears.

I am a sinner and a saint cuz…

when I fall down, I get back up.

I am his wife and his girlfriend.

I am her sister and her friend.

I am sweet softness but…

please don’t mistake that for weakness, it won’t turn out good for you.

I am strength even in my fragility.

I am Life’s teacher and its student.

I am a daughter and a mother, therefore…

I am a taxi, a tutor, a chef, a maid, a mentor, a counselor, and a prayer partner.

I am a lover of Jesus and Mexican food.

I am a work in progress and…

I won’t be a finished product until I’m resting soundly in my Father’s arms.

Who are you?

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You Can Miss Me With That One!

http://www.thegrio.com/opinion/do-black-men-feel-guilty-about-dating-white-women.php#comments

I gave birth to one child, a son, but I have thousands of daughters. You are Black and White, Jewish and Muslim, Asian, Spanish-speaking, Native American and Aleut. You are fat and thin and pretty and plain, gay and straight, educated and unlettered, and I am speaking to you all. Here is my offering to you…Maya Angelou (an excerpt from her book Letter To My Daughter).

If a person’s perspective IS reality, then here’s mine:
I couldn’t care less about what ANY woman (or man) thinks about my marriage, my family, my life. Whether it be a random woman off the street, in my church, or even at Walmart. Whether or not they approve of MY life concerns me NONE.
I AM a positive conversation, image, role model, and story about interracial relationships. I AM NOT vanilla arm candy or a porcelain-skinned goddess…just a woman who loves this man with all my heart, soul, and body. I am his wife and he is my husband and we have weathered this storm for eighteen years.
My husband IS an amazing partner, father, provider, and role model for the hundreds of boys he has coached over the years. He IS NOT a professional athlete, politician, etc, with a trophy on his arm…He drives a truck all day and works hard on the dock because he loves his family. He doesn’t hide from the eyes of black women in Walmart nor does he walk twenty strides ahead of me…I don’t follow him around, I walk with him – side by side, hand in hand.

I DO NOT accept the description of my marriage as a “social ill”…to be lumped into the same category as addiction and prison…PLEASE! You can miss me with that one. I didn’t take my husband from anyone, we simply met and fell in love. Besides, what would make any woman believe he “belonged” to her simply because his complexion is as hers?
We work hard, we love hard, we raise our children to be comfortable in their skin, they are aware of who they are. We pay a mortgage, a car note, and a ton of other bills. We go to our kids sporting events, and offer them incentives to bring home straight A’s. We all curl up on the couch for movie night in the family (yes, FAMILY) room, and pop popcorn for such an event. We rejoice when one of us succeeds and our hearts break when one of us are hurt…
I’m sorry, did I miss the description of this kind of interracial relationship while being SO enlightened by this author’s perception, uh, I mean reality?

I, we, owe no apologies to another human being for the choice we made to have a life together. There is no guilt from either of us…we didn’t abandon our own – we are our own.

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