A Particular, Involuntary, Unexpected, Unfamiliar Thought


Something happened tonight, a thought – a particular, involuntary, unexpected, unfamiliar thought. I was allowed to grow up without this thought, allowed to exist blissfully unaware that this should even be a thought. My priviledge allowed me these things and ensured that neither my skin, nor my choice in clothing, would ever be perceived as suspicious to the person crossing me on the street. But tonight, a particular, involuntary, unexpected, unfamiliar thought rose up from my heart to my brain and then permeated my soul.

My son – although he is half me, although he was conceived of my love, although he grew in my womb, although he entered the world through the labor of my own heart and body – he doesn’t have the same priviledge that I do. It didn’t dawn on me when he was a perfect two-year-old, I didn’t realize it when he was an obnoxious ten-year-old, it didn’t cross my mind when he was a cute fourteen-year-old but now that he’s a handsome, brown, seventeen-year-old, junior in high school and now that I have cried many tears for another so much like him…

*sigh*

He called me from his friend’s house tonight around eight. “Mama, can I walk to the store with J?”

And there it was – a particular, involuntary, unexpected, unfamiliar thought. I hated it. It actually hurt. And before I could stop the the thought from forming the words that became my sentence, and before I even recognized that it was my own voice I was hearing, I shared that thought with my child. MY CHILD

“Yes, Baby – but don’t wear your hoodie up.”

Lord have mercy 🙁

About thisnest

The Sparrows are happily married, and the parents of five children. Donna and her husband Antonio are college sweethearts who also raised his seven siblings, many with special needs, for nearly two decades. Along the way they have navigated the ups and downs of being a blended, black, white, and brown family. Donna celebrates each day of blessings and embraces her family’s “interraciality” through poetry, anecdotes, and glimpses into her beautifully chaotic life on her blog at www.ThisNest.com
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2 Responses to A Particular, Involuntary, Unexpected, Unfamiliar Thought

  1. Marilyn Roady says:

    How sad, how very,very sad.

  2. star says:

    OMG that is very sad. Sunday there was alot alot of people at this place called Bonita Lake. we had to walk all around the whole lake like 3 times. we were doing it for Trevon Martin everybody had there hood on holdin a sign up marching around Bonita Lake it was very sad

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