Dear Grandma…4/29/10


I found a piece of you last night…a piece of you I didn’t expect to come across, and it tore sharply at my heart.  I was getting ready for bed and, as I dried my freshly washed face on a towel behind the door, my gaze drifted slightly to the right toward some of your bead necklaces that are also hanging back there. I didn’t prompt my arm but before I knew what was happening, it was carrying my hand toward your beads. I didn’t prompt my hand but before I could stop, it carried my fingers and they wrapped themselves around the necklaces. I didn’t prompt my fingers either, as they quickly carried those familiar pieces toward my face.

I inhaled…a long, deep breath…and there you were, Grandma. That same, familiar scent…sweet, subtle but still strong…you. It hurt me, I wasn’t expecting it, but still I was so happy to experience it again. I desperately grabbed and inhaled again…nothing. Damn it!  Again I tried…nothing. I made the same, desperate attempt about five more times, finally (but faintly) finding you one last time before I broke down and began crying. I looked for you there again this morning…you weren’t there. I miss you…

Since you’ve been gone, the world around me continues to rush by…Tony is growing like a weed, I think he’s a little bigger every morning. Devaney moved up from an A cup to a B cup. Destiny began basketball practice. D’Lo is going potty on the pot pot. A’D, well, he is walking now. I wish I would have done a better job sharing these things with you while you were still here…I’m so sorry, Grandma. I love you…

I’ll write again soon.

Love, your very first granddaughter,

Donna Kay

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The Sparrows are happily married, and the parents of five children. Donna and her husband Antonio are college sweethearts who also raised his seven siblings, many with special needs, for nearly two decades. Along the way they have navigated the ups and downs of being a blended, black, white, and brown family. Donna celebrates each day of blessings and embraces her family’s “interraciality” through poetry, anecdotes, and glimpses into her beautifully chaotic life on her blog at www.ThisNest.com
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One Response to Dear Grandma…4/29/10

  1. Debra says:

    I love you

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